You Have a Baby...in a BREWERY

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We bring Fritz everywhere with us. It has been one of the best parts of parenthood seeing him discover the world. He hears new noises, sees new faces, smells new smells and takes in all of the color and light around him. It really is quite magical.

We take Fritz out to dinner (but have a NO tablecloth rule), he has traveled with us, stayed in nice hotels, and been to breweries in Milwaukee, San Diego, Minneapolis and most recently Little Thistle in Rochester, MN. Steve and Dawn, the owners, are the kind of people every community should be blessed with. Not only are they GOOD people (like the best), but they brew fantastic beer. Steve even dropped off a Little Thistle onesie for Fritz, when he was first born! To say we feel comfortable there is an understatement, we feel welcome, at home, even. It is an escape for us out of the house on a Friday night. Could we get a babysitter, sure? BUT we pay $15 an hour and sometimes we would rather spend time with our child after a week of working all day then pay someone $60 to sit with him, in another house, for four hours.

The reason I’m telling you this is because recently the topic of babies in a brewery came up. Our local radio station published an article by one of their personalities on the issue. I probably shouldn’t have taken it personally, but it felt personal. Primarily since the writer was there the night, I was, with my Fritz and another family and their two kids. Maybe, I’m being oddly sensitive, but it felt like an attack on my parenting. And I’ll say it: I AM A REALLY GOOD MOM. ADAM IS A REALLY GOOD DAD. I don’t need to be told that by anyone, or be lead to second guess it.

Here is the writer’s point of view: babies in breweries are a NO. Please note: this is a brewery, not a bar, though Fritz has been to a bar, too! He loved it and slept the WHOLE time. Adam and I aren’t getting drunk. We are having a drink (maybe two) with friends, to enjoy their company and watch our sweet children interact. Honestly, it is entertaining! They giggle, take in their surrounding, and might yelp a little if they want some milk.

The author said the kids made her feel awkward. She didn’t see the point of them being there, because Little Thistle doesn’t serve food. She suggested parents should plan ahead, find a babysitter and not bring a child to a place where other adults want to get drunk. Again, this isn’t a bar. I personally have never gotten drunk at a brewery. But to each their own. I’m not going to shove my “morals and values” in this woman’s face and tell her if the decisions she makes are right or wrong, but my decision to have my baby at a brewery, made her feel weird. And that is ok, but it makes me feel weird.

“Full disclosure: I'm not a parent, but if I were I wouldn't be bringing my child to a brewery that doesn't serve food. Why do they need to be there? Are they eating food too? (That I understand!) Do I need to censor myself around them because they're so young? Honestly, that's how it felt.”

Fritz is eight months, so unless they serve organic puree, he is not eating. It is milk for that kiddo. And he is going to hear worse things on the playground than he is coming from your mouth.

“I get it - parents need a night out. Plan ahead. If what you really want to do is try a brewery, why not find child care so you can truly enjoy yourself? You wouldn't have to watch them. You could just focus on the beer and each other. I do understand that sometimes finding child care is easier than others, but isn't a plan like this worth a little more planning ahead?

I did wonder if maybe I was being insensitive about this. As I said, I'm not a parent. I went to talk to our resident "Mom expert" Jessica Williams of Y105-FM and got her perspective on this scenario. She said, "I wouldn't bring my kids to a brewery that didn't serve food. I would think that'd be boring for them.""

A few points here, last Friday, I DID TRULY enjoy myself! We met new friends for the first time, and they were SO lovely! Adam and I can’t wait to hang out with them again! Childcare is not cheap, sure we are in a position to afford it, but it adds up. $60-$80 every Friday is the typical rate and to be clear, Fritz does have babysitters! Last weekend he had one from 1 PM - 9 PM while Adam and I were up in the cities at a tailgate-themed couples shower. He is having one overnight when we go up to the cities for the U of M homecoming game. Sometimes we just choose to be with our child, because spending time with our child, in public is crucial to us. Fritz was not bored, we bring toys, we talk to him. We don’t ignore him while we enjoy our beers. I’m guessing the mom-expert’s kids are older than Fritz, but they also might enjoy the old school Nintendo, Pac-Man, tons of board games or the bags that are outside!

Honestly, there seemed to be more parents with kids at Little Thistle than without. Maybe that is where the uncomfortable feeling comes from? Before I had kids I made unfair judgements too. I would get annoyed when a child sitting behind me in an airplane would kick my seat or when when would run in front of my cart in the grocery store. But I get it now. We are all doing THE BEST we can.

I did something I never do, and I choose to respond to the radio station on Facebook, and I had a pending request from the author (I think from a few months ago) and reposted it on her wall. She said it was to keep the dialogue open. I’m guessing the radio station is loving all the traffic they are getting and kudos. But as my friends put it maybe starting a “mommy war” as clickbait wasn’t the most delightful way to go about it.

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If you feel so inclined to read the article it can be found here.

MONTH Eight: Update

When I decided to re-launch Marlowe + McKerihan I was coming from a place of grief (I think that is the right emotion). I was “trying” not to mourn that the first few months of Fritz’s life were scarred by an undercurrent of anxiety and sadness.

When I think about all that we went through, it is SO small in comparison to what other’s deal with. But I still can’t minimize what we felt and still feel. I am so proud of how Adam and I worked together to make it through this. I’m also so thankful we went through it and that we had our close friends and family to support us.

This week I’m traveling for work for the first time in over a year. Last time I went to my company meeting Fritz was in my tum. I’m looking forward to hanging out with all of my co-workers for three days in Chicago. BUT, my heart aches a little that Fritz will be at home without me. on the other hand I’m also really thrilled that Adam gets the change to hang with him solo! AND, that at the end of the week we all get to see our families!!!!!


Lots of mixed emotions!


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Fritz will be EIGHT months tomorrow!

  • He is trying to crawl and mostly scooting backwards. He launched himself under the couch this weekend.

  • He LOVES his pouches of food. We tried a new Ancient Grains one this weekend with Pineapple, a total hit!

  • He won’t fall asleep without a paci and has little interest in Wubanubs anymore. This kind of breaks my heart.

  • He has grown so much! We is wearing mostly 6-12 clothes, some 6-9 fit and some 9-12 do as well.

  • He has his first cough and cold, but just slept a little more than usual.

  • Still no teeth, but so much drool!

  • He is starting to makes sounds that appear to be words, “DaDa”.

  • He loves being tipped upside down and when I open my mouth really wide in his face (ha), it makes him belly laugh.

  • He is great at entertaining himself as long as he has a pile of toys.

The best thing we’ve purchased in the last month is a Wader & Roam mat. There are a ton of options on Amazon, but this one looked so soft (it is!) and Fritz can’t rip apart the tiles and eat them (everything goes in his mouth right now).

Huge Bonus: it looks like a rug! I actually removed our living room rug and put it down. I even love sitting on the floor with him to play on it. I really did get a lot of questions on this, and highly recommend it. The owner reached out on Instagram and shared Fritz’s picture + video. She was SO lovely and incredibly sweet and said her boys (who are a bit older than Fritz) still use theirs everyday!

Check out Wander & Roam here. They are also a great Instagram follow and share so many sweet toys!



Baby Boy: Clothing

Baby boy clothing was something that intimidated me from the moment we found out our little bug was a boy. I grew up with sisters in a world of stealing shirts and mascara. I had no clue what to do with a tiny little human that would roll around in the mud and play with worms (ohhhh god). 

 Adam and I both like quality clothing, so it was tough for me to not spend ALL of the money on baby clothes for Fritz. The issue with buying clothes for a baby: they need a new wardrobe every three-ish months. There are certain special occasions that call for a special outfit but for everyday wear, it just doesn't need to cost a fortune. This is what works for us and our family! No judgment if you spend $100 on an outfit or $1. Personally, I think we dress Fritz pretty darn cute and not at the expense of his college fund. 

 

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Everyday:

Above is a typical Fritz outfit: Old Navy Pants, Granamals T-Shirt, Little Unicorn Bib and Freshly Picked moccasins! 

Old Navy: I go here for easy separates like a chambray shirt, striped drop crotch pants and onesies. Everything is usually under $10 and that makes me happy and I'm not gutted if it gets ruined or he outgrows it super quickly.  However, everything alway goes on sale and quickly - so what to buy what you until its majorly discounted! 

Gap: We have a bunch of summer outfits from here all in 3-6 month. I will say Baby Gap runs B I G. But Fritz is almost able to fit into a 6-12. They are having a great sale right now where nearly everything is 50% + and extra 20%. I ordered him two little pairs of camo joggers and some long sleeve henly onesies. Again, nothing really over $10-$20 here. Last summer I shopped their sale rack for 6-12 month fall sweaters which will be perfect for the next few months! 

H & M: I just picked him up some sweatshirts and pants for fall. He is growing out of his 3-6 month summer clothes at a rapid rate. H & M does tend to run a little weird their 4-6 month clothes were small and their 6-9 month clothes were H U G E. I also really think you need to see their stuff in person. The quality varies. 

Burt's Bees: Love their shortalls for daycare. Very affordable and wash really well. Bonus: Amazon Prime. 

Target: I'm sort of particular here. I like their Cat & Jack line for pants and shorts. Their Cloud Island Kimono onesies and the Afton Street brand, which is a little more on the "cool baby" side of things. I'm not really into the dress your baby up like a dino or make him wear frogs head to toe *and before you judge me, remember I grew him. He's my human doll. I can dress him in whatever I like. (JK.) 

TJ MAXX: Our TJ MAXX is like a baby heaven. They have Aiden and Anais, Little Unicorn, Vineyard Vines - - - all of the things for like $7.99 a pop. So, when I have time to dig, I go there! I have a feeling he will reject my preppy/hipster baby vibes sooner than later and demand to wear all Under Armor and Nike and in that case, its coming from TJ MAXX as well. 

Zara: Usually I have such a hard time ordering online for Fritz from Zara, but placed an order this morning and am thrilled with what I got! Some cute henleys, pocket t-shirts, harem pants and the prices were amazing. Here is a small clip of my order. 

 

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Special Occasion:

Florence Eiseman: This is a Milwaukee based brand that I wore when I was a baby, as did my two sisters, but its incredibly expensive. My mom picked up Fritz a bunch of pieces and while they aren't his everyday style, he looks so cute in them! I can't wait to see him in these for Christmas with a little white oxford. 

 

Florence Eiseman Christmas Overalls

 

*Yes, Fritz has velvet Christmas overalls. 

 

Beaufort Bonnet Company: Again, these are special occasion outfits. We do not need to spend $60+ on a Jon Jon for him to spit up on all day.  That being said, his Gigi did think he needed a special one for the Fourth of July in San Diego and the quality is really lovely. 

SK Creations: I LOVE their stuff. The most incredible monogramming and the softest fabric. If you check out the Etsy store, you might recognize a little model on there! SK Creations made Fritz's coming home outfit and another shortall that he lived in this summer. These are more than I usually spend on everyday outfits, but $20 for a MONOGRAMMED romper is priced so well! 

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Recent Buys.

I was going to write a post on my favorite "budget friendly" items, but I have to be realistic. In that my life is a pretty good balance of save vs. splurge. Right now I want Fritter to have the best, so most of my $$$ goes to baby gear. 

 

Molly Grimm Current Favorites: Apple Watch, Z Supply, MDS Stripes, RMS Beauty

One. Would it be lovely to have the Hermes Apple Watch Band? Why, Yes! Do I need it, nope. This was the perfect dupe at $13.99. I love the taupe/green color and it looks rich. I went to see my sweet friend, Claire, and she coyly asked if I had on a Hermes band. Almost, but this one cost me $.34 because I had some Amazon Card points. 

two. Z Supply T-shirts have become my new favorite. They are a little bit slouchy, a little bit oversized, and on the longer side. Bonus they are only $34.99. Which is a steal if you love Vince and Splendid as much as I do. I plan on ordering the Grey Burnout and Green Burnout for fall. Perfect for under a suede Moto Jacket. 

three. Rent the Runway - Unlimited has been a live saver this summer with weddings, vacations and events. I plan to hold onto it for a few friends' baby showers in September, wedding events in October, a trip to Napa and another wedding in November. It saves me money paying $159 a month so I don't splurge on trendy items like this MDS Stripes dress that I adored wearing in San Diego. Someone, please order this! 

four. This RMS Beauty Un Cover-Up Concealer has saved my life. I'm not huge into green beauty, but this product goes on smooth in two seconds. It isn't full coverage and doesn't and doesn't look cakey, its super light and gets the job done for quick morning errands (hello, daycare drop-off) or weekends. 

 

*UPDATE: MY watch band is sold out in the El Toupe Color by V MORO. I will keep an eye out for it. In the meantime I do LOVE the rich cognac color. BUT this appears to be the EXACT BAND just under a different brandname: buy it here!